Best Practices for Setting Boundaries to Protect Team Well-Being

"You don't have to set yourself on fire to keep others warm." That quote saved my career. And it’s one every employee needs to hear. Most of us are afraid of setting boundaries. We fear disappointing others more than burning ourselves out. Think about that for a second. We'd rather: • Work through lunch (again) • Take that 10 pm call • Say yes to another project • Push our limits until we break To avoid risking someone being temporarily disappointed. The irony? Weak boundaries don't just lead to burnout. They breed resentment. They damage relationships. They make us less effective at the very jobs we’re trying to protect. Here’s what I’ve learned - both personally and professionally: Boundaries aren’t selfish. They’re essential. They protect your well-being, your career, and your energy. One of my favorite reminders: "Boundaries are the distance at which I can love you and me simultaneously." Effective boundaries look like this: 1. Define your role in writing. Document your duties, expectations, and any changes. 2. Communicate limits early and clearly. Don’t wait until you’re overwhelmed. 3. Document overreach, shifting priorities, and extra demands. Keep a written record. 4. Watch for pressure tactics. “Team player” language often hides unreasonable asks. 5. Know when flexibility becomes exploitation. Helping occasionally is fine, but doing three jobs is not. 6. Use facts, not feelings. Anchor boundaries in workload, fairness, and documented expectations. You don’t owe anyone your exhaustion. You owe yourself clarity, strategy, and self-respect. Follow for more on how to protect your career without sacrificing yourself. #EmploymentAttorney #CaliforniaEmploymentLaw #EmployeeRights Disclaimer: This information is for educational purposes only and does not replace professional legal advice. It does not establish an attorney-client relationship. Please consult a qualified attorney for advice on your specific legal situation.

Setting boundaries will get you more respect, not less. But only if you do it effectively: Saying yes all the time is NOT the key to success. In fact, it's a sure-fire way to:  ↳Get overloaded ↳Hurt your performance ↳Seem less valuable ↳Burn yourself out While many struggle to establish boundaries, And worry about what others will think if they do so, The reality is that those who set and communicate them effectively Actually increase their success AND reputation. Use this sheet to learn how: 1) Don't say: "I'll try to get to all of this" ↳Because: Puts all the pressure on you and avoids setting limits ↳Say instead: "I can't do all of this today - which part should I prioritize?" 2) Don't say: "I'm working but I'll keep an eye on messages" ↳Because: Undermines your focus and invites interruptions ↳Say instead: "I've set aside the morning for focused work - I'll check at noon" 3) Don't say: "I'm not sure I'm the best person for this" ↳Because: Opens the door for someone to push you to do it anyway ↳Say instead: "That's outside my lane, but here's someone who might be a better fit" 4) Don't say: "I don't want to disappoint you" ↳Because: Prioritizes their comfort over your needs ↳Say instead: "I know this may be disappointing, but I have to say no" 5) Don't say: "I'll try to squeeze it in last minute" ↳Because: Compromises your quality and adds stress ↳Say instead: "I work best with notice - I can't take this on at the last minute" 6) Don't say: "I'm free - take as long as you need" ↳Because: Time-drains easily expand when unstructured ↳Say instead: "I have 1 hour for this - let's address the key points" 7) Don't say: "Let me think about it" ↳Because: If the answer is no, just say so, instead of wasting everyone's time ↳Say instead: "I appreciate the ask, but I'm going to pass" 8) Don't say: "Maybe we can find a time?" ↳Because: Sounds cooperative but avoids a decision ↳Say instead: "I can't meet this week - does next Wednesday work?" 9) Don't say: "Just reach out anytime this weekend" ↳Because: Sets an always-available expectation ↳Say instead: "I unplug on weekends, but I'll respond Monday morning" 10) Don't say: "I guess I can do it" ↳Because: Implies reluctance, but still agrees, creating resentment ↳Say instead: "I'm not the right person for this, so I have to say no" 11) Don't say: "Let me know what you need" ↳Because: Opens the door to unlimited requests ↳Say instead: "I have one afternoon to devote to this, so let me know the priority" Setting boundaries isn't easy. But learning to keep control of your schedule, Instead of turning it over to others, Will let you serve them AND yourself much more effectively. Give these a try. Any others you'd add? --- ♻️ Repost to help your network set firmer boundaries. And follow me George Stern for more.

Stop apologizing for setting boundaries at work. Stand firm with these 15 moves: I spent (many) years apologizing for needing focused work time, taking earned vacations, and saying no to draining commitments. Until I realized: Setting boundaries isn't about being difficult - it's about teaching people how to value you. Here are the exact scripts that changed everything: 1. Setting healthy boundaries in high-pressure environments ↳Use calendar color-coding to signal focus time vs. collaborative hours 2. Taking their full vacation time to prevent burnout ↳Schedule mini-breaks leading up to longer vacations for smoother transitions 3. Disconnecting completely during personal time ✨ ↳Designate a shutdown ritual (close all tabs, clear desk...) to end the work day 4. Declining meetings without clear agendas ↳Offer weekly Office Hours as an alternative to ad-hoc meetings 5. Asking for compensation that matches their value ↳Document revenue generated + costs saved by your work 6. Speaking up about unrealistic deadlines ↳Develop metrics based on past projects to accurately predict timelines 7. Prioritizing mental health over hustle culture ↳Create (and use!) quiet spaces designated for quick mental breaks. Lead by example here ✨ 8. Saying no to unpaid extra responsibilities ↳Try: "Thanks for thinking of me, let's discuss the value exchange" 9. Leaving toxic work environments without guilt ↳Write a Clean Exit memo for yourself - focus on your future plans, not past problems 10. Requiring work-life integration that works for them ↳Create Life-First Blocks, and schedule personal commitments before work ones (I do this every Sunday) 11. Standing firm on their expertise in meetings ↳Start responses with "Based on my experience handling X similar situations..." 🙌🏼 12. Taking time to think before committing to projects ↳Consider: "Would I want this on my plate a month from now?" 13. Protecting their team from unnecessary stress ↳Ask "Is this urgent, important, or interesting?" for every new task 14. Choosing growth over comfort zones ↳Design mini experiments to test new approaches and build confidence 15. Leading with empathy instead of authority ↳Spend 2 hrs monthly doing your team's most challenging tasks - share what you learn as a group ✨ Your boundaries are a blueprint for how you deserve to be treated. No apologies needed. Which boundary can you work on setting this week (without apologizing)? -- ♻️ Repost to boost your network's confidence 🔔 Follow me Dr. Carolyn Frost for daily insights on building confidence & setting powerful boundaries

7 Ways To Set Boundaries At Work (Maintain Balance Without Hurting Your Growth): 1. Define, Share, & Stick To Working Hours Setting clear boundaries around the time that you’re “on” at work is a two-for-one deal: - It makes it easier for you to put work away at the end of the day - It makes it easier for your colleagues to know when you’re “on” What To Do: In upcoming 1:1s, mention that you had some changes outside of work and will be signing off at X time, but will be available any time before that. Then stick to it! 2. Don’t Reply To Messages Immediately When you reply to everything as soon as you get it, people begin to expect that from you. Building in a buffer sets new expectations that you’re not going to drop everything to make someone else’s To Do item your problem. What To Do: Set a rule for yourself where you won’t reply to non-critical emails or Slack for at least [Time]. You can start small (say, 5 minutes) then begin to work your way up. 3. Use The “Substitution Method” For New Asks Saying yes to new initiatives can mean stretching yourself too thin. If you feel like too much is on your plate, try the “Substitution Method.” What To Do: When given a new ask: - Thank them for looping you in - Outline all the projects you’re working on - Ask which should be deprioritized for this When you make people realize that saying yes to this means deprioritizing something else, they’ll think twice. 4. Block “Focus Time” On Your Calendar The average employee is interrupted 56 times per day. That only leaves 8.5 minutes between interrupts. What To Do: Put a placeholder on your calendar where you’re marked as busy. During that time, stop notifications on Slack, email, etc. Then focus on the biggest task you have. Start small with 15 minutes, then add 15 minutes every week or two until you’re up to 2-3 hours. 5. Take An Actual Lunch Break Too many of us “eat” lunch while we continue to hunch over our screens and work. Your body, eyes, and brain need breaks to perform at optimal levels. Use lunch as one of these. What To Do: Block time on your calendar to eat lunch. When the time comes, close your computer and go to a different room to eat. Bonus points if you eat without your phone and go for a quick walk after. 6. Respect Colleagues’ Boundaries Society is built on reciprocity. Make sure you’re aware of, and respecting other peoples’ boundaries. They’ll notice this and they’ll be more likely to respect yours in return. What To Do: Be proactive in learning about your colleagues’ ideal setup. Ask them when their working hours are, ask when the best times for meetings are, etc. 7. Start With One & Start Small It’s tempting to try to implement all of these all at once. Don’t do that. What To Do: Pick one that resonates with you. Think about the smallest step you can take for it (e.g. time blocking for 15 minutes, not replying to messages for 5 minutes) and start there.

Burnout isn’t productivity. It’s self-sabotage. Burnout isn’t a workload problem. It’s a boundary problem. Burnout doesn’t happen overnight. It builds. One extra task. One late-night email. One weekend “just checking in.” Then suddenly, you’re drained. Not just tired. Totally empty. 13 Boundaries to Prevent BURNOUT 1. Set an end time for work    ↳ If you don’t decide when the workday ends, someone else will. 2. Stop saying “yes” immediately    ↳ Pause. Think. If it’s not an easy “yes,” it’s a “no.” 3. Protect your mornings    ↳ Start the day on your terms. Not in your inbox. 4. Take real breaks    ↳ Scrolling isn’t rest. Step away. Move. Breathe. 5. Say “no” without guilt    ↳ No explanation needed. “I can’t” is enough. 6. Don’t be available 24/7    ↳ Urgency is often fake. Protect your off-hours. 7. Turn off notifications    ↳ Your brain wasn’t built for constant interruption. 8. Create “focus hours”    ↳ Deep work requires boundaries. Block the distractions. 9. Stop over-explaining    ↳ You don’t owe a full essay every time you set a boundary. 10. Set meeting limits    ↳ Too many meetings? Decline. Shorten. Combine. 11. Guard your weekends    ↳ Rest is productive. Treat it like a non-negotiable. 12. Define your role clearly    ↳ If you do everything, people will expect everything. 13. Prioritize yourself    ↳ Your health, your energy, your peace. . .protect them. Boundaries aren’t barriers. They don’t push people away. They keep you from disappearing. Burnout ends when you decide it does. ❓ What have you done to prevent burnout? ♻️ Repost to encourage others to set healthy boundaries. ➕ Follow Nathan Crockett, PhD for daily tips.