Managing Emotional Reactions

In 2008, Michael Phelps won Olympic GOLD - completely blind. The moment he dove in, his goggles filled with water. But he kept swimming. Most swimmers would’ve fallen apart. Phelps didn’t - because he had trained for chaos, hundreds of times. His coach, Bob Bowman, would break his goggles, remove clocks, exhaust him deliberately. Why? Because when you train under stress, performance becomes instinct. Psychologists call this stress inoculation. When you expose yourself to small, manageable stress: - Your amygdala (fear centre) becomes less reactive. - Your prefrontal cortex (logic centre) stays calmer under pressure. Phelps had rehearsed swimming blind so often that it felt normal. He knew the stroke count. He hit the wall without seeing it. And won GOLD by 0.01 seconds. The same science is why: - Navy SEALs tie their hands and practice underwater survival. - Astronauts simulate system failures in zero gravity. - Emergency responders train inside burning buildings. And you can build it too. Here’s how: ✅ Expose yourself to small discomforts. Take cold showers. Wake up 30 minutes earlier. Speak up in meetings. The goal is to build confidence that you can handle hard things. ✅ Use quick stress resets. Try cyclic sighing: Inhale deeply through your nose. Take a second small inhale. Exhale slowly through your mouth. Repeat 3-5 times to calm your system fast. ✅ Strengthen emotional endurance. Instead of avoiding difficult conversations, hard tasks, or feedback - lean into them. Facing small emotional challenges trains you for bigger ones later. ✅ Celebrate small victories. Every time you stay calm, adapt, or keep going under pressure - recognise it. These tiny wins are building your mental "muscle memory" for resilience. As a new parent, I know my son Krish will face his own "goggles-filled-with-water" moments someday. So the best I can do is model resilience myself. Because resilience isn’t gifted - it’s trained. And when you train your brain for chaos, you can survive anything. So I hope you do the same. If this made you pause, feel free to repost and share the thought. #healthandwellness #mentalhealth #stress

My ex-colleague, Neha, was so emotional that she literally cried if anyone disagreed with her. However she was also kind, hardworking, and caring. She always helped her teammates, listened to their problems, and kept the team happy. Clients liked her too because she was polite and understanding. But when it was time for a promotion, one senior manager said, “Neha is too emotional. Can she handle pressure?” Her team leader, Rajeev, replied, “Yes, she is emotional—but that is her strength. She listens, helps others, and doesn’t get into office politics. Our team is happy because of her.” The management listened. Neha got promoted. Later, she helped her company start a mental wellness program and became a guide for many younger employees. Dear Companies: -> Respect Emotional People: They make the team stronger and more united. ->Train Managers: Teach leaders how to understand and support emotional employees. ->Support Mental Health: Give employees access to counselling or relaxation sessions. ->Reward Kindness: Appreciate those who help others and work with a clean heart. ->Say No to Office Politics: Make rules clear and fair so no one needs to play dirty games. Dear Emotional Employees, ->Be Proud of Your Feelings: Your kindness is a gift—use it well. ->Set Limits: Help others, but don’t forget to take care of yourself. ->Ask for Feedback: Check how others see you, and improve if needed. ->Stay Mentally Strong: Try meditation or journaling to manage stress. ->Make Good Connections: Avoid office politics, but stay friendly and helpful. In today’s fast-moving workplaces, emotional employees bring heart, balance, and honesty. Instead of seeing them as weak, companies should understand their real value. These employees care about people, avoid drama, and often become the quiet strength of a team. When they feel respected and supported, they give their best—and help others do the same. A workplace that values emotions is not just kind, it is smarter. #emotionalwellbeing #mentalhealth #leadership

Burnout isn’t a time problem. It’s a feeling problem. If I had a dollar for every time a high-performing exec blamed burnout on “time management”… I’d fund emotional literacy programs across India. Twice. My counselling patients include CEOs, surgeons, and creators — people who’ve mastered discipline. They’ve optimized their calendars. Their teams. Their lives. But when burnout hits? They crash. Hard. Not because they’re lazy. Not because they lack ambition. But because no one ever taught them the one thing that now matters most: How to feel. Here’s what I see, again and again:   They’re exhausted in ways sleep can’t fix.   They procrastinate, but don’t know why.   They lead others, but feel lost inside themselves. They’re emotionally cut off from their teams, their loved ones, and worst of all… themselves. And still, they try to optimize their way out. As if feelings are bugs in the system. But here’s the truth: Your brain is the CEO. Your emotions are the board. Ignore them? You’re getting fired from your own life. So what’s the fix? Here are 3 emotional strategies I teach my clients: Ground before you go. (Breathwork. Cold water. Movement.) Track emotional KPIs. Check in daily. What am I feeling? Why? What do I need? Micro-habits for presence. 1-minute pauses. Phone-free family time. Naming your emotions out loud. Because the leaders who win this decade? Won’t just be the smartest. They’ll be the ones who’ve mastered emotional presence. Because plans don’t lead people. Presence does. #psychology #mindset #people #emotions #productivity #leadership

There is growing concern in corporate mental health, especially within the Middle East, where traditional, one-size-fits-all approaches to employee mental health often miss the mark. Given the current regional context, exposure to painful conflicts, employees face specific challenges—such as secondary trauma, vicarious trauma, and PTSD—that standard wellness programs might not adequately address. The current trend of expecting managers to bridge the gap between employees' needs and corporate mental health programs is problematic. While managers can and should offer support, expecting them to manage complex mental health issues without specialized training or resources is both unrealistic and potentially harmful. The solution would involve organizations adopting trauma-informed policies and creating a workplace culture that understands and responds sensitively to these needs. These could include: 1. When choosing mental health trainings or wellness programs, make sure they are culturally tailored and region specific. 2. Have trauma-informed policies and practices which could include defining boundaries around managers' roles in supporting employees, acknowledging that they are not therapists. These policies should focus on recognizing trauma symptoms, avoiding re-traumatization, and connecting employees to appropriate mental health resources. Also, considering flexible work options for employees struggling with their mental health or having a trauma reaction. These flex work options could include having a workplace that has quiet rooms, or allow for remote work days, or flexible hours, to allow space for self-care and recovery. 3. Offer access to mental health professionals who are both trauma-informed and culturally aware, partnering with regional mental health providers who understand the local context. 4. Expand the corporate “wellness” agenda to include workshops and seminars about vicarious trauma, PTSD, and secondary trauma, focusing on how these issues can affect them indirectly through news, social connections, or work responsibilities. 5. Offer employees routine emotional well-being check-ins with a mental health professional, where they can discuss their concerns in a confidential setting, especially after significant regional events or traumatic incidents. You can also consider group debriefings for teams who may be experiencing vicarious trauma due to their work or regional news. Structured support sessions can help individuals process collective experiences. #BigIdeas2025

In high-stakes interviews, knowledge is useless if you can’t access it under pressure. You know that moment.. Your brain goes blank. Your palms sweat. And instead of solving, you start surviving. But here’s the truth → Problem-solving under stress is not a “talent.” It’s a trainable skill. And the candidates I coach who master it often walk out with multiple job offers. Let me break it down with no-fluff, expert-backed techniques that actually work: 1️⃣ Rewire Your Stress Response with the 4-7-8 Reset When your nervous system panics, your prefrontal cortex (the problem-solving part of your brain) shuts down. Before answering, use the 4-7-8 breathing method: Inhale for 4 sec Hold for 7 sec Exhale for 8 sec This activates the parasympathetic system → instantly reduces cortisol and gives you back cognitive control. 2️⃣ Switch from “Answering” to “Framing” Research from Harvard Business Review shows that candidates who frame the problem out loud sound more confident and buy time to think. Instead of jumping straight in, say: “Let me structure my approach — first I’ll identify the constraints, then I’ll evaluate possible solutions, and finally I’ll recommend the most practical one.” This shows clarity under stress, even before the solution lands. 3️⃣ Use the MECE Method (Consulting’s Secret Weapon) Top consulting firms like McKinsey train candidates to solve under pressure using MECE → Mutually Exclusive, Collectively Exhaustive. Break the problem into 2–3 distinct, non-overlapping buckets. Example: If asked how to improve a delivery app → Think in “User Experience,” “Logistics,” and “Revenue Streams.” This keeps you structured and avoids rambling. 4️⃣ Apply the 30-70 Rule Neuroscience research shows stress reduces working memory. So don’t aim for perfection. Spend 30% of time defining the problem clearly and 70% generating practical solutions. Most candidates flip this and over-explain, which backfires. 5️⃣ Rehearse with Deliberate Discomfort Candidates who only practice “easy” questions crash in high-pressure moments. I make my students solve case studies with distractions, timers, or sudden curveballs. Why? Because your brain learns to adapt under chaos and that resilience shows in interviews. 👉 Remember: Interviewers aren’t hunting for perfect answers. They’re hunting for calm thinkers. The ones who don’t crumble under the weight of uncertainty. That’s how my students at Google, Deloitte, and Amazon got noticed → not by being geniuses, but by staying structured under stress. Would you like me to share a step-by-step mock interview framework for practicing these techniques? Comment “Framework” and I’ll drop it in my next post. #interviewtips #careerdevelopment #problemsolving #dreamjob #interviewcoach

If you think swallowing anger will help you build healthy relationships, THINK AGAIN!! That's something I've learned the hard way. So many times, I've felt furious but chose to just swallow it down, thinking, "Let it go for now." But this isn't just about keeping the peace; it's about how repeated suppression of anger can actually warp our perspective, especially when forming new relationships. Science and psychology tell us that when we consistently suppress emotions like anger, it doesn't just disappear. It simmers, affecting our #mentalhealth and how we interact with others. This build-up of unexpressed emotion can lead to increased stress, anxiety, and can even harm our physical health. I've been through this cycle myself. I used to pride myself on being the person who never rocked the boat, always brushing off conflicts and letting things slide. It seemed easier that way. But over time, I noticed this habit was costing me. Friendships became strained, and new relationships were often viewed through a lens tinted with unaddressed resentment from the past. The turning point for me was realizing that acknowledging and expressing anger is crucial. It's not about lashing out or being confrontational. It's about acknowledging your feelings and addressing issues as they arise, in a constructive way. This might mean taking a moment to cool off before speaking, or finding a calm and rational way to express what's bothering you. The trick lies in understanding why we're angry and learning to communicate that in a healthy way. It's about breaking the cycle of suppression, which not only frees us from carrying the weight of unspoken frustrations but also paves the way for more honest and meaningful connections. So, the next time you feel that surge of anger, take a moment. Reflect on why you're feeling this way and consider the best way to express it. It's not just about maintaining relationships; it's about creating healthier, more authentic ones. #thegirlwithredbindi P.S.- I have started venting out in a healthier way. Recently, I felt frustrated at work. Instead of bottling it up, I went for a brisk walk. As I walked, I focused on my breathing and let my thoughts flow freely. This physical activity helped me calm down and later, I shared my concerns with my team in a constructive manner.

Ever felt your mind go completely blank right when it mattered the most? You’ve prepared, practiced, and yet—under pressure—you freeze. During a recent training session, a participant vulnerably shared: “In high-stakes moments—tight deadlines, crisis meetings—I just go numb. I forget what I had to say or do. And every failed attempt makes the next one harder.” Sounds familiar? Staying calm under pressure is not a natural skill—it’s a learned one. Here are 6 quick strategies I shared that can help break this cycle: ✅ Breathe before you act – Slow, deep breaths signal your brain to stay calm. ✅ Anchor yourself – A small gesture (like touching your thumb and index finger) can become a calming ritual. ✅ Practice with distractions – Train yourself in noisy or time-bound situations to build real-time focus. ✅ Reframe the situation – Instead of "I have to deliver", say "I get to express myself". ✅ Visualize success – Picture yourself handling the situation calmly and confidently. ✅ Be mindful, not mind full – Just being present in the moment can help cut out panic and past baggage. Remember: the goal is not to avoid pressure, but to build your muscle to stay composed within it. What helps you stay grounded when pressure peaks? #EmotionalResilience #CalmUnderPressure #CorporateTraining

Ever wonder why you react the way you do at work? Let's talk about attachment styles. I've been thinking about how our relationship patterns appear in the workplace, and it's pretty fascinating. Here's what I've noticed: The Secure Types: These folks make work look easy. They're cool working solo but also love being part of a team. They don't freak out over feedback and know when to ask for help (and when to crush it on their own). The Anxious Crew: Always going the extra mile? Double-checking if your work is good enough? You might relate to this one. These team members care deeply about relationships at work - sometimes a bit too much. They're often the ones pulling late nights to make sure everything's perfect. The Avoidant Squad: These are your independent players. Give them a project and they'll get it done, no hand-holding needed. They're lifesavers in a crisis but might keep coworkers at arm's length. "It's not personal, it's professional" could be their motto. The Complex Ones: Some days they're all in, other days they need space. Workplace dynamics can be tricky for them, and stress might throw them off their game. But they often bring unique perspectives to the table. Worth thinking about as we kick off 2025: How does your style affect the way you lead or follow? What boundaries could make your work life better? How might this awareness level up your career game? Here's the cool part: These patterns aren't set in stone. Understanding them is just the first step to growing professionally. Quick tips to level up in 2025: 1. Start small: Notice your patterns in one meeting or interaction. 2. Get curious, not critical: These patterns developed for a reason Try one new way of responding to workplace stress this week. 3. Journal about your work relationships - what patterns do you see? What's your take? Do you recognize any of these patterns in your work life? #WorkplaceDynamics #PersonalGrowth #CareerDevelopment #RealTalk

𝐍𝐞𝐱𝐭 𝐏𝐥𝐚𝐲 𝐌𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐚𝐥𝐢𝐭𝐲: 𝐂𝐨𝐩𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐖𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐌𝐢𝐬𝐭𝐚𝐤𝐞𝐬 As a sport psychologist, I often talk to athletes about coping with negative emotions following an error (e.g., dropped ball, misplaced pass, or a missed penalty), and how their reaction to mistakes is very important. It is important that athletes (and people) don't dwell on mistakes when they are still in the performance situation - reflection can occur later - and manage their emotions quickly to continue performing so that one mistake does not impact the remainder of the performance. This allows them to prepare for the next play or involvement. This video highlights why this is so important - Ronaldo fails to score from a free kick, outside the box, and within a matter of seconds, he has another opportunity to score. If athletes dwell too on a mistake or a setback and don't cope effectively with negative emotions, they may not be ready for their next opportunity. I have researched coping and coping effectiveness among elite athletes for over twenty years, but this is the first time I have considered the speed at which a person can alleviate negative emotions to be critical. 𝗪𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗶𝘀 𝗘𝗺𝗼𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻-𝗙𝗼𝗰𝘂𝘀𝗲𝗱 𝗖𝗼𝗽𝗶𝗻𝗴? Coping strategies used to regulate emotional distress during a stressful episode are considered emotion-focused coping strategies (Lazarus & Folkman, 1984). 4️⃣ 𝗦𝘁𝗲𝗽𝘀 𝘁𝗼 𝗖𝗼𝗽𝗲 𝗘𝗳𝗳𝗲𝗰𝘁𝗶𝘃𝗲𝗹𝘆 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵 𝗡𝗲𝗴𝗮𝘁𝗶𝘃𝗲 𝗘𝗺𝗼𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝘀 𝗗𝘂𝗿𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗖𝗼𝗺𝗽𝗲𝘁𝗶𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻 1️⃣ Recognise how you feel after a stressful incident (i.e., lost point, poor shot, or wrong call from an official). 2️⃣ Accept this feeling. 3️⃣ Deploy an appropriate emotion-focused coping strategy. This will depend on what has happened and the time available to cope, but it could include any of the following:  🌬️ Deep Breathing 🖼️ Re-evaluate or reframe the situation 🙂 Forgive yourself for a mistake 💬 Engage in self-talk 👥 Seek social support 4️⃣ Generate a challenge state to create a positive emotion. Research has shown that challenge states can cause positive emotions (Thompson et al., 2020). Do this by: Focus on what you want to happen during the next point or next play and how you will achieve this. Reference. Mark Thompson PhD, John Toner, John Perry, Rachel Burke, PhD, & Adam Nicholls. (2020). Stress appraisals influence athletic performance and psychophysiological response during 16.1 km cycling time trials. Psychology of Sport & Exercise, (2020), 101682.

𝗬𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗥𝗲𝗮𝗰𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻 𝗨𝗻𝗱𝗲𝗿 𝗣𝗿𝗲𝘀𝘀𝘂𝗿𝗲 𝗖𝗮𝗻 𝗠𝗮𝗸𝗲 𝗼𝗿 𝗕𝗿𝗲𝗮𝗸 𝗬𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗥𝗲𝗽𝘂𝘁𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻 A tight deadline. A demanding client. A last-minute change that turns your work upside down. We’ve all been there. Stressful situations at work are unavoidable. But how you handle them? That’s where real professionalism shines. I’ve seen two types of responses: 🚩 Person A: Panics, gets defensive, blames external factors. ✅ Person B: Stays composed, finds solutions, keeps communication clear. Guess who earns more trust, credibility, and respect? Here’s what I’ve learned about maintaining professionalism under stress: 🔹 1. Pause Before Reacting When things go wrong, our first instinct is to react instantly. Instead, take 10 seconds to process the situation before responding. Your tone, body language, and words matter more than you think. 🔹 2. Control What You CAN You can’t control last-minute client demands or an overflowing inbox, but you can control: ✔ Your response time ✔ The way you communicate ✔ Your ability to prioritize and delegate 🔹 3. Keep Your Emotions in Check (Even When Others Don’t) If a colleague or client is frustrated, demanding, or even rude, don’t mirror their energy. Stay calm. Stay professional. Nothing diffuses tension like a composed response. 🔹 4. Focus on Solutions, Not the Problem Instead of saying: 🚫 “This isn’t possible. We don’t have enough time.” Try: ✅ “Given the deadline, here’s what we CAN do and how we can adjust.” 🔹 5. Your Reputation = How You Handle Tough Moments People don’t just remember your work—they remember how you made them feel in stressful moments. A calm, professional attitude builds trust and opens doors to bigger opportunities. At the end of the day, professionalism isn’t just about doing great work—it’s about how you handle the tough parts too. #Professionalism #CareerGrowth #Leadership